7 Days to a New You. DAY 1
I’m posting Benny Howes’ 7 Days to a new YOU series. It’s not only for those who are looking to shed weight this season… it’s for people who are ready to understand exercising their Conscious, On Purpose!
Benny has miraculously healed from stage 4 kidney failure… and has had a near death experience which changed his way of life forever. Our God-given birthright is explained in this series… I simply wanted to share the postings. Feel free to comment or contact Benny or I with any questions.
Have a wonderful day.
Shine On.
7 Days to a new YOU.
[2 for 1 through June 5th.]
If you have had trouble completing your weight loss journey due to stress or self sabotage, or if you’ve found the weight inching it’s way back, you must read this.
Perhaps it’s time to give it another shot with a much more clear and powerful outlook on yourself.
We have our 2 for 1 special on Vibrational Drops through June 5th. Get your drops HERE, drop a pound a day and create a new identity for yourself this week. Tell your friends and make it a group journey.
Wouldn’t it be awesome and Life changing if we could simply program ourselves like a computer to lose weight, KEEP IT OFF and feel great? Well, I believe you can, in the same manner that I healed from Stage 4 Kidney Failure without the use of modern medicine.
Looking back on my experience, it was actually kinda simple. But if I wasn’t willing to hear and believe the most important idea about who I truly am, I may be on dialysis right now waiting for a Kidney transplant.
The idea that changed my life forever was… wait for it… “I AM Whole”. It dawned on me that underneath all the facts and test results telling me how sick I was, was the Truth showing me I’m Whole and Healthy. I learned disease or weight issues were simply conditions and conditions can change. I chose to believe the Truth that I could heal and that Truth, was all I would accept. The nurses called it denial, others called it being stubborn and unrealistic. Well, 6 months later my Doctor called it a Miracle.
It’s time to participate in creating your own miracle.
Over the next 7 days, I’ll share with you the attitudes that helped me let go of the baggage that was weighing me down and literally killing me from the inside out. Each day is equally important so make sure you take 10 minutes every day this week to learn how to decide and transform who you are by creating a new identity for yourself.
Are you afraid that you can’t change how you think? No Worries, I watch people change everyday and they shared the same concern when they started too. Look at it this way, Have you’ve ever changed your opinion about anything? Perhaps you didn’t enjoy a certain person in your life and later you learned how to look at them from a new point of view. Heck, you may even be best friends with them now.
If you can change your relationship with another person, you can do the same with the most important person in Your Life… YOU.
If you change how you see yourself, you will change your life. I know you can do it, because I’ve done it and you and I are truly the same…Human.
YOU CAN adjust your attitudes, program your mind and body to let go of the ideas, feelings and sabotaging behavior that leads to a life of being heavy, unhealthy and unhappy. It doesn’t matter what you think of yourself right now, we can change it.
If you desire to live a new kind of reality, You must, see yourself in a new life and drop the Old person who you thought and believed you were. Do you think “Jared from Subway” would have transformed into who he is today if he didn’t see himself in a new light? “Fat Chance”… Sorry for the pun. Jared first had to call himself something different, he had to have an attitude like, I AM free of baggage, I AM Healthy, I AM Able to be the person I see in my mind.
Now it’s your turn, Let’s get started…
Day 1 – Identity
Who/ What do you believe you are?
Start a sentence with “I AM…” now finish that sentence with the first thought that comes to mind. Do it now, I’ll wait for you…
O.K. What did you come up with? Did you say “I AM accepted, happy, healthy, confident in my abilities, abundant, fulfilled, etc? Or did your sentence have a negative spin to it?
How you finish that sentence sets the tone for everything else we’ll cover this week, so choose something great. Do you say “I Am Fat… or I am broke?” Do you really believe that, or it is it just a condition of your life that you know will change?
You can be whoever you choose to be, so pick someone you’ll be proud of. How about your authentic self that can be duplicated by no one else. YOU is always the best choice.
You can do this, but first you must wrestle and defeat the ideas that try to tell you NO, You can’t. Put your foot down don’t be pushed around by ideas from your past.
Do you truly accept yourself, or simply tolerate yourself?
Tolerance simply ignores the ‘flaws’ you see, but you still know there are flaws. And acceptance doesn’t see flaws but says, You are Good, Only Good.
I’m here to tell you, YOU ARE ACCEPTED AND GOOD.
As a Life coach and Weight loss coach, I talk to so many people that think they are a certain person. And many believe “It’s just the way I am and I can’t change it.” they also say “My doctor says it’s ‘genetic’.” They say Kidney Failure has a genetic link as well. Did I mention my Kidneys are perfect still to this day?
Because of how people interpret what they’ve heard said by family, friends, media and the thoughts in their head, they believe they are lazy, slow, not good enough, not smart, not good at math, not good with directions etc… these inner beliefs cause us to feel and act accordingly. This determines what we experience in Life. My good news to you is… You can change this like I did.
Otherwise, with beliefs and actions that are not good enough, your results will be just that, not good enough.
We must stop focusing on the facts and drop the lies.
These same people go through a process of dropping or erasing the lies they’ve believed about who they are. Once the lies have been rationalized and the person can see clearly, they realize it was simply these negative ideas that have been holding them back. They see they honored the lies over what was actually True. The more they are willing to believe the best about them self, they begin to experience life better and better… Always, The Truth always wins.
If you believed you could, you would right? So it’s time to see yourself as the type of person that is capable and can do it.
Here we go…
It’s time to stand up for yourself and see you for who you truly are.
Under all the insecurities, past disappointments, misunderstandings and times of hopelessness. YOU ARE GOOD. You are smart, you are healthy, you are beautiful/ handsome, you are able to learn something new and do something new. You are in charge of your mind and how you think. You are able to have a new reality. It doesn’t have to take a long time but you do need to walk the path to a new you.
For health and weight loss, say these things to yourself over and over until you can say it with some conviction and belief. It may take you all day to get to where you start to see the evidence of how great you truly are. But if you do this, you’ll see and feel the difference. If you do this in the mirror, you’ll even see yourself begin to stand a little taller, more confident. As you proclaim who you truly are, you are literally charging your emotional batteries and will have the inner energy to experience better emotions. Then, when you feel better, you’ll do better, so power up with these statements.
You can say anything you choose, but I’ll give you some examples here.
- I AM happy, I am Healthy, I am Loved and respected by my truest supporters.
- I AM letting go of toxic beliefs, toxins in my body and past baggage from my life.
- I AM able to digest all things in my life and release the waste.
- I AM satisfied with natural foods.
- I AM pleasing to my eye.
Say these statements, with confidence and meaning, you’ll start to feel a change almost immediately. If you don’t believe you’ll feel different, say the negative statements and see how your energy goes down. It works, I promise.
Tell me your feedback. How did you feel as you practiced this?
Stay tuned for tomorrow’s message. We’ll talk about Having and Allowing Life to be Good.
Thanks again everyone, Journey On…
Benny
7 days to a new YOU – Day 2, ‘I CAN’
Hi there how are you today? Did you make the “I AM” Statements from yesterday? Could you tell the difference as you continued saying them. It seems like magic but it works all the time.
I had a couple additional thoughts on Day 1 – Identity…’I AM’.
I like to look at the statements we make like seeds that grow in our life. Who and What we ARE will always determine what we do and how well we do it. Who you believe you are will shape your entire life. How could a beggar become the rich person giving to the beggar. Only when the beggar can see themselves as a rich person can the shift begin.
We all know if we plant an Apple seed in the orchard, we’ll see an Apple Tree grow. Why will it only grow an Apple Tree? It’s simple… that what IT IS. Just like the Apple seed can only produce Apple Trees, We can only produce what we are on the inside.
When I help with my sons Little League Baseball team, if a player is having trouble with something like batting for example, I recognize they’ve simply forgotten, or have never known that they are a good hitter. So, I start by looking them in the eyes and I say…
“Billy…YOU ARE A GOOD HITTER”, and “Good hitters, hit the ball…Now Billy, get up there and Hit the ball, You can do it.”
When we speak to ourselves and others at the level of who we truly are and what we can be, we ignite those qualities in ourselves and others.
I don’t think people hear how good they are very often though, It appears that, kids and adults both suffer from all the opposite “I AM/You Are” statements. You are such a screw up, you are a troublemaker and many other colorful ways we can devalue someone.
Think about a kid that hears these things all growing up, how could they think anything different of themselves unless someone tells them. That’s why I tell these boys how good they are, in spite of what their parents, teachers and coaches say. Even good hitters strike out sometimes and we limit our life when we form our identity simply from the results we get. That will only perpetuate the cycle of error and our life goes in a vicious circle.
We Must Encourage others, reminding them of their greatness.
If we don’t speak up and encourage others to be the Good person they truly are, they’ll be very likely to believe all the negative comments.
The good news… Once we know that it doesn’t matter who says the encouraging words to us, we realize we can say it to ourselves and build up our own identity that matches our inner truth of greatness and fulfillment.
Once we realize we can be whatever type of person we wish, Good, happy, healthy, patient, kind, a good batter, a good student, good at math, a good Mom, Dad, teacher spouse, whatever you choose, Then we can move on to the next step…
Day 2 – Choosing and Allowing
I think most of us have been told to make good choices in life, to live the life we love and follow our dreams etc. But, as you can see, if at my core, I’ve been conditioned to believe I’m a bad seed. How can I truly follow my heart and reach my potential? If I believe I’m a bad seed that’s always messing things up, then I’ll naturally make choices that produce yucky, messed up results. These results will only prove that I mess things up, and when it comes to doing things ‘right’, I’ll believe I can’t, so I won’t.
Henry Ford has been quoted as saying,
If you think you can, or you think you can’t, You’re right.
I also heard George Lopez say on his T.V. show as he was encouraging one of his kids, “We are MexiCANS, not MexiCAN’TS.”
Cute, and True. We are also, AmeriCANS and CANadians.
You must believe YOU ARE and YOU CAN.
The theme for today is I CAN. It’s time to allow for any possibility to be just that, possible. We must remember, if it’s possible, then we can. I’m not saying it happen in the morning, but who says it can’t? It may take some time and we may need to learn some new skills but the point is, we can, and we simply need to choose to take the action steps. We’ll get into Taking Action on Day 5.
Let’s begin to build up our ‘CANness’. Yes I made that word up, use it if you want.
Right now…say out loud, I CAN… say it 10 times deliberately and with meaning. The first couple times may sound funny to you, but you’ll settle in and start to feel the shift in your body as you speak these empowering words. Say them now…
I CAN What?
If I AM a good parent, Then I CAN raise my children in a loving, effective way.
If I AM Healthy, then the next statement may be something like… I CAN Live a healthy lifestyle, I CAN let go of stress and drama in my life. I CAN let go of anything that would weigh me down. I… CAN!!!
Without believing YOU CAN, You never Will. But if you believe YOU CAN, You’ll do everything you choose to do.
So What do you CHOOSE?
Now that we are planting seeds of greatness, let’s choose to allow great things to be present in our lives.
The statement of “I Choose”, is very powerful. I think if we look at our life on a deeper level, we’ve gotten what we’ve chosen. I didn’t say we’ve gotten what we desire. But on a deeper level of who we believe we are, we always get what we choose. I’ll give you an example from my life.
I remember always feeling second best. Without knowing it, I was basically saying, I AM second best, And when a promotion at work would come up, It would always go to the other person, it promotion went to the person that believed I AM #1 for the job, I CAN do it.
When I was in High School the girls always chose the other guy. How often have you wanted to be the other person?
I was always finding my self as #2. My Number in baseball was even #2.
I believed #1 was for arrogant players and I was proud in my humility… and miserable.
I obviously didn’t understand humility and took this to the extreme of putting myself down… as you can see, I unknowingly but definitely chose to be #2.
We always get what we choose, even when we’re not aware we are choosing.
I talked with a person yesterday and she was asked The Question… Chocolate or Vanilla? Without hesitation, she said Chocolate. I could tell it was an automatic response so I asked her how long she’s chosen Chocolate. She looked a little puzzled for a second as if this was the first time she’s considered it. She said, My Whole Life.
My question to you is… Do you think if someone has been conditioned to choose Chocolate Ice cream without even considering the other flavors and she’s done this her whole life, Could we all be making choices out of conditioning we aren’t aware of? Of course we could, and we do. We all think, feel, judge, and act out of habit and conditioning much of the time. Science says 95% of our day is run by sub-conscious behavior. So think about the people of the world, running the world out of habits we’re not even aware we have.
It’s time to be aware of our choices and choose what we enjoy. So let’s Choose and allow our choices to be present in our life.
If you were building your dream life, what features would you have in it?
As I build my life, I say things, Let there be, There is, I have, I can etc.
- Let there be peace in my life.
- Let there be abundance in my life.
- I have many great friends
- I have a great family that I enjoy
- There is plenty of opportunity to do what I love in my life.
- There are positive people all around me.
- There are more than enough people that appreciate what I offer.
- I can fit into those skinny jeans.
- I can receive my dream job.
- There is unity in my family
Talk to yourself.
It’s important to say these positive and affirming statements to yourself often. You are literally reprogramming your self, to believe in your best characteristics and possibilities. Talk to yourself all the time. You don’t have to be the crazy person on the city bus, unless you’re O.K. with that. But communicate with yourself.
When you are driving, when you’re going through your morning or evening routine, talk to yourself. Say all the things that you’ve wanted to hear others say to you. Don’t feel silly about what your spouse will think, just say the words that will empower your soul to be your best. I AM…I CAN…
Say what you Choose, not what you don’t.
I encourage you to always use the positive way of saying something.
To say, I don’t want drama in my life, is not the same as saying, I choose peace.
Saying, I can’t stand being broke, isn’t the same as saying, Let there be abundance.
Saying, I hate being fat… won’t get you slim, unless you change how you see yourself and what you are capable of.
Then, regardless of what you see in the mirror, you’ll know that underneath the fat, YOU ARE SLIM, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE, YOU ARE ACCEPTABLE, YOU ARE ONE OF A KIND AND YOU – ARE – GOOD…
And…since YOU ARE…YOU CAN.
Now GO!!! Be all that.
Stay tuned for Day 3 – I WILL. Letting our choice be enough to initiate change.
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Enjoy,
Benny
7 Days to a new YOU Day 3, I WILL
O.K. Now that we’re through Day 2, you’re telling yourself I AM and I CAN.
Now that YOU CAN, What WILL you choose to do?
We have all heard the question, What would you do if you knew you could? Probably whatever you found to be important, right?
Well, Today is all about understanding the power of your choice and the authority you have over your life.
Regardless of what spiritual/religious beliefs you have, you may agree that people have their own free will. Not everyone agrees what that means, so I’ll tell you what it means to me.
What is WILL?
First, Let’s look at the traditional WILL for a second. When a person’s physical life on Earth is over, they give instructions on how to distribute their possessions to family and friends. This is called their WILL and it’s legally binding. Simply put, they make decisions and those decisions get carried out.
Let’s look at this in relation to you. Once your WILL is established, only one person can change it… YOU.
Once it’s in the Will, it’s done, all the powers that be will see your will carried out.
It’s important for everyone to know, we do have a living will of sorts and the choices we make on a daily basis, will in deed shape our reality.
People tell me all the time, “Once I could say I AM, and I CAN with conviction, I knew there was nothing that could stop me. I also knew I had the authority to establish my WILL or binding choice in order to change the conditions in my life.”
Who’s Will runs your life?
Have you ever chosen something only to have someone else talk you out of your decision? Then later you look back and wish you would have gone with your first choice. How does this happen? How does someone talk us out of OUR choice?
On the other hand, think about the times when no one could stop you. Friends and family tried to talk you out of it, but your WILL was set and supported by a deeper conviction that YOU CAN and maybe YOU MUST take action, so you did.
So let’s answer the question, how does someone talk you out of your will, or even push their choice on you?
Let’s face it, we’ve all experience disappointments in our past and sometimes we draw conclusions based only on our experience. This easily leads to insecurities and can make us feel inadequate. I believe this leads to a lack of conviction and confidence in who we are.
I believe when we lack conviction and confidence in Who we are and What we’re capable, it’s easy for others to talk us out of our greatness. I think this is when we decide our circumstances are bigger than we are and we need to just accept there are things in life that we can’t change.
We’ve all been there, the thoughts can sound like, Our bills are too big, I have to loose too much weight, it’s just too hard, how in the world is it even possible. The doctors told me it incurable etc.
People, circumstances and thoughts of I CAN’T will always be there to talk us out of our best life. When reasons why not are presented, we must be able to establish our own reason WHY our circumstances aren’t too big. This becomes our inner conviction. Once you have the conviction of why you are doing something, then nothing but you can stop you and you’ll only accept Yes for an answer.
Yes, There’s evidence, Impossible things happen.
We’ve all seen friends accomplish something we never thought was possible. Many dismiss it and say, they must have gotten lucky. When we ask, how did you get that done? Often they’ll tell you, I’m not sure, I just knew it would work. Lucky I guess.
Luck is a funny thing, and always happens when we have set our mind on something and know IT IS going to happen.
One of our fellow Journeyers was in China and had a Heart Attack. Lacking acceptable health insurance, the hospital refused to give her care unless they forked out the necessary cash in advance. Her confidence wasn’t built up either when she looked in the corner of the room and saw a man lying on the floor after he had bleed to death. They just left him there. Contrary to knowing the risks of transporting someone in her condition, she knew if she stayed there, she would die. She boldly said, Lets GO… NOW.
To get to the point, there were many things that needed to come together, including flying her to Korea to get real medical help. She ultimately made the decision that saved her own life.
Many would say she was Lucky, but I think when we have a definite objective of what needs to happen, all the pieces will fall into place. I actually got to give her a big hug today and congratulate her not only about her recovery, but her courage to take action when the experts advised against it.
We must listen to our inner voice and take action from that point.
I’ve had my own Lucky times too. When I healed from Stage 4 Kidney Failure, without medication or a transplant, it was definitely a matter of WILL. I remember sitting in a dialysis orientation with a couple other patients and my wife Diana. I was only thirty years old compared to the other patients were in their 60’s…I felt completely out of place to say the least.
Towards the end of the film, A new idea dawned on me.
I leaned over to Diana and said, “I don’t belong here, this isn’t my TRUTH. The facts may be that my Kidneys aren’t working, but the Truth is, I AM Whole, and I CAN Heal.”
In an instant I went from picturing my life on dialysis and hoping for a transplant, to a realization of, I don’t need any of this stuff, my body can heal and somehow, that’s what I’m going to do.
End of story right? I decided and it was done… Not quite. I had to get past the nurses and doctors that had never seen one of their patients heal from Kidney Failure. I literally had to defend the conviction that was present inside me. I never thought I would have to defend it to the very people that were being paid to help me. In their defense, they must not have wanted me to set myself up for a large disappointment. I’m sure they have seen patients do that before. They meant well I’m sure.
Good intentions and all, if I would have allowed them to talk me out of the best ‘AHA’ moment of my Life, I could be on dialysis, continuing to wait for a Kidney transplant.
We all have to make a choice some time.
At the end of the orientation, they wanted me to sign a paper that declared what treatment path I was choosing. Do you think ‘Healing’ was one of the choices, Of course not. I could either check the box that said, Dialysis or the box that said Transplant.
I enthusiastically said, Neither, I’m going to heal. From the looks on the nurses’ faces, you’d think I said I was going to fly to the moon on a Tricycle.
People who think they know better, or have no faith in overcoming the facts of life, will try to talk you out of what you believe and even talk to you like you’re crazy. Don’t believe them, like the nurses, they’ll mean well, but sometimes doubt disguises itself as caring.
There will always come a time when you have to stand on your own two feet and follow your heart. If you have that inner voice telling you YOU CAN, then with God as my witness, YOU CAN.
The nurses smiled and began counseling me to overcome the denial that was obviously overtaking me.
To make a long story short, they wouldn’t allow me to leave without checking a box on the form they gave me, So to appease them, I checked transplant.
I figured I could justify having a plan B. Remember, I didn’t know how I would heal, I had just found out I could heal. The only thing I had to hang my belief on was that new Idea, that I CAN.
From that point on, my WILL was set on being whole. Even when my test results showed the opposite, I had to declare what I had chosen, Healing, My Miracle.
Six months later, Good Friday of 2005, my doctor was amazed and a little confused when he told my wife that I was 100% healed. I was the only patient in his 25 year career that he witnessed heal from this condition. He retired two months later.
People ask me all the time, How did you heal? It took me years to gain any understanding of what really happened. Now, It’s been seven years since my healing and I can see what was going on much clearer now. We’ll talk about the actions I took toward my healing on Day 5.
But today, I whole heartedly believe:
The foundation of my Miracle was the belief that my inner truth could overcome the facts that stared me in the face. I believed it with my life.
What did I learn?
1. Facts don’t tell the whole Truth.
2. Believing I AM Whole, instead of I AM Sick, unlocked the possibility for healing.
3. Believing I CAN Heal, gave me the inner conviction and strength to stay committed to my Choice.
4. When we commit to our choice, the path will appear as we go.
5. We have the power to choose, our choice is enough and it’s binding.
6. Our choices unlock the Miracles and magic of Life.
7. We all have a Miracle we can choose, and we must choose it each day.
We are all looking for a Miracle, something that doesn’t seem possible.
I’m here to tell you, I believe your Miracle isn’t as mysterious as it may seem.
It’s time to re-discover new ways to finish the sentence of I AM and I CAN. Once you do that… YOU WILL.
Come back tomorrow for Day 4 – Gratitude, Keeping a great attitude, when it’s easier to give up.
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Here we go,
Today is our 4th day to a new YOU. As you’ve seen so far, when we begin to look at our self in a better light, we can begin to say and Identify with statements like, I AM Healthy, I CAN Heal, I WILL to Heal. I AM Abundant, I CAN experience abundance, I WILL to Have an abundant life etc. As we continue to affirm these statements, we be build up our faith, confidence and thankfulness that Life is so good and supportive, not only to what we need, but what we enjoy experiencing too.
I’m going to start with Gratitude. In fact, all our lives would be better and more fulfilling if we learned how to activate our sense of Gratitude before we begin each day.
Next time you leave for work, have an attitude check. If you feel grumpy, simply choose your best attitude possible at the time. In my opinion the best attitude would be a humble attitude of Gratitude and thankfulness towards life.
The first 3 days of this transformation are all internal steps, I AM, I CAN and I WILL are all mental attitudes that build up our character, who we are on the inside. Day 4 – Gratitude, interacts with our outer Reality and begins to assign what we consider Acceptable or Condemned. In other words, Good and Bad, Right and Wrong, Possible and Impossible.
Attitude is Everything!!!
The attitude we have will always determine how we interpret what we think, see, hear and feel. This always leads us to the result we get in life, so when people say, Our attitude determines our Altitude, it literally means in order to take our life to higher levels of enjoyment and fulfillment, we must learn to keep a positive attitude.
Good attitudes are deliberate.
Gratitude is something we must do on purpose first, eventually we will get accustomed to seeing the bright side of things and can see the perfection even in every blunder. Gratitude will become a habit, and good habits makes it easy to love life.
When Life gives you Lemons…
Make Lemonade right? This is easier said than done. I agree, Loving Life, isn’t always easy to do if we feel life is always serving us Lemons. Just make Lemonade? I don’t know about you, but after a while, anyone would get tired of turning all those lemons into Lemonade. There must be a better way…
Gratitude is the answer.
Here are some other ways of saying gratitude. Good Will, Pleasing and Grace which means Thankfulness. Saying Thank You is action of Gratitude.
I look at Gratitude as Great Attitude. In fact it’s almost the ultimate attitude that doesn’t find fault, in others. It is simply thankful that they are alive and allows everyone to express themselves however they choose.
When we clothe ourselves with Gratitude, we don’t find the need to get upset when others behave in ways we wouldn’t choose for ourselves, Instead we offer Grace to others. Some use the words Unconditional Love, or even being indifferent.
The point is, Gratitude will keep you calm when Life gives you Lemons. Gratitude will help you know that everything has a reason and eventually, we will find out that reason if we don’t get bent out shape. Then we can offer Grace to others and Grace, will keep you from negatively Judging others.
Gratitude gives us the attitude that, just because people challenge my beliefs, I don’t need to be in conflict with others.
Gratitude will keep your emotions flexible and in check.
Once we are equipped with our attitude of Gratitude and are able and willing to offer grace to others as we interact with them, NOW we can have the confidence to overcome any challenge without getting caught up in conflict.
Faith and Confidence
Faith and Confidence are both essential if we are going to encounter our world and new ventures in an effective way. Without ultimate trust that God/Life supports our choices, we will always be worried about making a mistake. If you think about a movie director that yells CUT…do that again, TAKE 2, you’ll realize that every mis-take we make, allows us to do it again.
Mistakes are part of learning, do you yell at a child for not tying their shoe properly when they are learning? I sure hope not. I’ve actually watched adults yell at kids for making a goof. Maybe that’s where we get it.
Maybe we remember feeling like a failure when a stressed out adult was growing impatient as we were learning our life skills.
Guess What? We’re all still learning. Give yourself some grace and simply be thankful that we have the opportunity to learn new life skills and meet new kinds of people.
Undying Confidence Saved my Life.
When I was healing from Stage 4 Kidney Failure, there were many times that I could have lost my confidence and given up.
When I was told how yellow my skin and eyes were due to jaundice, I could have easily said… It’s not working, I give up.
But that would have ignored that inner voice that had made me believe that I AM Whole and I CAN Heal.
I AM Whole and I CAN Heal.
There were times, all I could rely on were those words. It was these words that helped me maintain a positive attitude and maintain the Hope I had to heal completely. Often the original inspiration we receive will be the most important thing to have confidence in and trust. Without Hope…we have nothing.
Hold onto your Inspiration
You must hold onto the ideas and experiences that inspire you, if it’s an idea, write it on a piece of paper and carry it in your purse or wallet. Pull it out and read during those tough times when your confidence is challenged.
I promise you, there will be times when you wonder if you’re simply crazy for thinking you can accomplish your task or life journey. Remember, YOU CAN and YOU WILL. You must Trust that.
I WILL means it’s done.
There will be trying times, and we need to remember that our choice was enough to set life in motion. WE WILL enjoy our accomplishment if we continue to trust and take inspired action.
Let’s take another look at today’s message.
- Gratitude and Thankfulness will always open the door for us to develop confidence.
- Gratitude and Grace helps us see the perfection in every blunder.
- Grace will allow us to be challenged by other people and experiences without getting caught up in conflict.
- Confidence allows us to make mis-takes without losing trust in our inspiration.
- WE WILL enjoy our accomplishment if we continue to be Thankful, Trust and take Inspired Action
Tomorrow is Day 5 and that means it’s time to TAKE ACTION. Enjoy today and we’ll see you tomorrow.
Benny
7 Days to a new YOU, Day 5 – ACTION
I hope you have enjoyed the first 4 days of this series and are finding new inspiration of who you are and what your reality can truly be. Please send me your questions and feed back. I would love to hear your thoughts.
Once we know, I AM, I CAN and I WILL, then we equip ourselves with an attitude of confidence and gratitude.
Now, It’s time to GO and Take ACTION with the faith and positive attitude that our actions will have a positive impact on our goal.
Day 5 – ACTION is a day of separation, it’s a day that you will either validate your decision and begin your Journey. Or, today is the day where you choose to adhere to your comfort zone and quit before you really get going.
When we decide, we are literally settling a dispute or cutting off, other possibilities. Our decision says YES to one and cuts off the alternative choice and that settles it. Decision, says either YES, or NO, WILL or WON’T.
A decision, one that begins in the core of Who we ARE, changes the course of history and sets the wheels of Life in Motion. Decision says, LET’S GO!!!
Why people act or not act?
There are many reasons people take action and as long as our actions come from an attitude of Gratitude, Hope for a better life or trusting our inspitation, then your actions will be successful.
If you are a person that already takes inspired action and moves toward your goal in any way you know how, then my hat is off to you and keep up the great work. So let’s focus on why people don’t take action.
I AM Not… or I CAN Not…
How many times have you or someone you know used this as a reason to not do something, even if we would completely enjoy it.
Why do we hold ourselves back from our greatness, when what we truly want is to experience doing good and having fun.
Take dancing for instance… You’re at a wedding and the minister announces,
Ladies and Gentleman, the bride and groom would like me to announce that we’ll be headed to the reception hall to enjoy some food, folks and fun. I’ve also heard there will be a DJ and dancing, so get your dancing shoes on and join Mr. and Mrs. Newlywed for a great evening.
When it’s time to dance at the reception, what do hear people say, usually men… I don’t dance, You go ahead. Or, I have a bum leg, I’ll just watch.
I’ll tell you what, as long as that person uses their bum leg as the reason they won’t dance, every time a dancing opportunity approaches, their bum leg will mysteriously act up.
If you need an excuse, you’ll always find one.
I don’t have enough money, I don’t have enough time, the economy’s bad, I’m not from the city, I’m not from the country…
We all have our list of reasons, why we can’t. And the sad thing is, we believe these reasons. But what happens when we allow ourselves to believe something else, something that gives us confidence that WE CAN.
I’m a good Singer
I’ll share an example that happened this morning. My 12 yr old son and his friend are auditioning for their talent show and were at our house to practice singing their song. My wife Diana has a great Musical and Singing background so she agreed to help them.
Right from the start, both boys were nervous and wouldn’t sing out. They were really timid and it was making it tough for Diana to help them. The boys were literally standing in their own way.
After about 10 minutes of this, Diana said,
Boys, STOP. What’s going on? You ARE good singers, why aren’t you singing the way you know you can?
The boys began giving a bunch of excuses, ranging from, my voice is tired, to I ate too much… blah, blah, blah right?
Diana saw where the boys were having trouble believing they CAN. Once Diana recognized this, she was able to go through the steps with them.
Boys, you’ve simply conditioned yourself to believe,
Day 1 – You ARE NOT a good singer,
Day 2 – If you’re not a good singer, You CAN NOT sing good,
Day 3 – If you believe you can not sing good, You WILL NOT sing good.
Day 4 – You lack confidence and feel inferior, which allows the fear to come, and when you get to Day 5… you won’t take action, and what actions you will take, won’t be good enough. This will always prove what you believe on Day 1 to be correct.
The boys saw the logic in that and said they would like to change so they can feel good and sing good. Diana started Back at Day 1 with the boys and showed them evidence to support why they ARE good singers. She talked about many positive comments their teacher had said, all the strong responses from their last concert etc.
As the boys heard the logical and definite reasons to believe they ARE good singers, their demeanor began to change. Then they began to talk about why they CAN in fact sing good. After that, the boys ended up deciding they WILL sing good and they were confident in their choice to sing good.
The boys easily entered into Day 5 and took inspired ACTION. How did they do?… They sang like Canaries. They even learned new harmony parts and they WERE AWESOME. We were so proud of the boys, they showed courage to change and grow.
In a matter of 15 minutes these boys were able to change how they saw themselves and perform like a whole new person. Some may say that’s a Miracle, but we say it’s inevitable. When we know we CAN, we WILL and our ACTION IS GOOD.
ACTION is just as powerful than believing we can, without ACTION, we’ll get NO Results of accomplishment or fulfillment.
What if we don’t know what to do.
Sometimes we can get to Day 5 and can’t figure out how to begin. What if I told you to simply do something, anything; even if it has nothing to do with your true goal.
My ACTIONS toward my healing
People always ask how I healed from Kidney Failure. I think they want to hear me say, I took this type of pill, I did this type of diet, It was a miracle healing at church etc. I think those types of answers would make sense to them. but when I tell them what I really did, they look confused.
Here’s a list of actions I attribute to my healing. The first ones make more logical sense than the later ones.
- High Dose Vitamin C therapy
- Colon, Liver and Kidney detox through diet and nutrition
- We created a ‘prayer’ that we sent out to about 500 people we knew and asked them to say it out loud once a day
Diana and I wanted to dedicate as much action toward our choice to heal as possible, but we didn’t know what else to do. We did what I call Dedicated or Memorial Action, meaning we did things that may seem unrelated to our cause, but we did it in memory of our healing goal.
- We figured since Kidneys filter and reduce clutter in the blood, we would get a dumpster and de-clutter our house of all the junk that was in the way. We filled a 30 yard dumpster with things that were simply useless and in the way. We dedicated this action to my healing.
- Along with de-cluttering our home, I de-cluttered my relationships too. This included forgiving old grudges I had been holding on to from my past. Forgiveness was a huge part and allowed me to change how I saw myself and others ( Day 1 – I AM)
- I visualized healthy Kidneys in my body, I didn’t even know what a Kidney looked like until after I healed. So Diana told me to pretend, If I did know what it looked like, what would it look like? What I imagined was less important than that I Imagined. I kept pretending I had Kidneys that were Whole, and functioning perfectly.
- We gave our service to friends and helped them anyway we could in Memorial of my healing.
- My Wife Diana performed Hands on Prayer, Reiki/ Energy work on my body to keep my spiritual aspects/energy flowing.
I can’t tell you exactly what action had the highest impact, but when it comes to making something happen, we must have confidence that any action we take will have a positive effect.
Just GO, TAKE ACTION and begin your Journey.
As you begin to take action, even Memorial Action, more related action steps will make themselves known to you.
Simply GO, choose to start your Journey. Tomorrow we’ll talk about the Journey itself. Day 6 – THE EXPERIENCE.
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Have a great day, see ya tomorrow.
Benny
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